A Dog’s Death and a Company’s Responsibility

The story of a dog left with a “trusted” sitter when his soldier owner was deployed, only to wind up abandoned and left to die by the sitter in the vehicle he’d stolen has become national news. A horror story and cautionary tale read by pet owners and dog lovers around the world as we all waited for news with diminishing hopes until the worst possible outcome was revealed.

The company Trusted Housesitters which “matched” the sitter and the soldier is cooperating with the police and has put out the usual corporate gibberish.

The sitter, Andrew Jansen is being sought by the police and was last seen apparently in Florida. Jansen didn’t “work” for Trusted Housesitters. Despite the name, THS is not a service but an exchange. Sitters exchange home and pet care for “unique home stays.: As a rule, no money passes hand between the parties.

So neither Jansen, nor the soldier were employed by THS. Both paid for “memberships.” Jansen as a sitter, and the soldier as a pet owner. Possibly a small “booking fee” was paid by either Jansen or the soldier or both. THS only recently started charging the fees and they are dependent on joining/renewal date and tier. It’s not clear what the fee actually covers, and it doesn’t seem to offer added protections for anyone.

What’s not being said in Trusted Housesitter’s statement is that they are in any way responsible for what happened. And maybe they aren’t legally although I would imagine that CEO Matthew Prior must be well aware of the recent US civil court case where a woman raped by an Uber driver brought suit against Uber and was awarded $8.6 million in dollars in damages. The driver didn’t technically work for Uber either, but the ride was booked through the app, and ultimately Uber was found responsible for the driver’s actions.

In the case of Trusted Housesitters homeowners are told to “vet” sitters, who apply to their “listings” but this wording is relatively recent. There aren’t a lot of guidelines offered on how. Sitters in most of the world go through an ID-verification process. In the US there is also a “criminal” background check though it’s unclear at least to most members what this encompasses and what it doesn’t. Convictions? Arrests? Apparently the sitter had many driving charges but it’s not clear if any were criminal or resulted in convictions. Maybe there is a level of convictions that still allows you to “pass” and get your membership? Who knows? If you look at the small print, the company isn’t “responsible” for anything that happens to either party or to the pets.

But wasn’t this Uber’s argument more or less? Drivers are independent operators paid by customers with Uber only taking a small cut acting as a middleman through its platform? Drivers don’t actually work for Uber in the conventional sense in this brave new “sharing” economy. There are ratings and reviews. If customers have issues they can bring them up or complain directly to the company. Similarly, THS has a rating system which if you pay attention to what’s publicly on the forums often involves both homeowners and sitters leaning over backwards to avoid mentioning anything short of the worst offenses lest they be scolded on the forums for being “petty” or receive a scathing public response from the person they reviewed. Homeowners know that writing a bad review could lead other sitters to avoid the site in the future since reviews are a big part of vetting.

I don’t have access to Jansen’s profile, but apparently he had 5-star reviews with no mention of any issues. If he had any problematic sits where homeowners decided not to review, the soldier would have had no way of knowing about them.

 I’ve been a member of THS for years. I signed up in late 2022 as a homeowner. In 2023, I upgraded to a “combined premium” membership allowing me to sit as well. It’s gone well. I’ve enjoyed hosting compassionate competent sitters in my home, and I’ve enjoyed free accommodations in Hudson Valley VRBO-ready homes, cities in the US like San Fransisco and Portland and even one time in a village in the south of France.

For me the “combo” has been a high-value asymmetrical home exchange. My Manhattan catsit  is considered a “highly desirable” one by THS standards. But clearly it doesn’t work out that well for everyone. Many homeowners find it difficult to find “free” sitters willing to stay in suburbs or take care of pets in need of extra care. Sitters vary. Some are part timers like me. Others are fully nomadic, and while most have steady income through remote jobs, passive income, retirement accounts etc, a large subset seem to be more sporadically employed, relying on sits for housing, and out there without a lot of support or resources when things go wrong.

Through the official forum and its feistier Reddit sister, I’ve become aware of numerous THS disasters: Indoor cats escaping through windows or doors never to be seen again. A dog drowned. Was it negligence by the sitter or should the homeowner have had a gate around the pool? We’ll never know because both parties seem to have signed NDAs in the settlement. And there was a story of some sitter who didn’t show up or maybe showed up once and decided not for me and two dogs starved to death. More recently a couple who somehow managed to join through another country so no background check and they burglarized their way through several California homes. Now this.

I get it. There are tens of thousands of sits going on throughout the world all the time. Things are going to go wrong somewhere. Maybe THS’s track record is better than Rovers. I know they’ve had incidents too. But I’m not a user of or sitter for Rover.  I’m feeling dirty somehow for my participation. I need to break my habit of giving helpful advice on the forum. I spent this morning looking up my history in case I said anything at any point to the soldier that could have encouraged him to make the fatal pick. I found that when he looked for help after his initial sitter cancelled just before his deployment, I flagged the thread and suggested that maybe given the circumstances THS could help him. I don’t know if they did or not but he confirmed a second sitter, and now the rest is history and tabloid news, and I wish I’d told him to do something else.

I am currently reading a sci-fi novel set in a future dystopia. The protagonist is a robot-valet who has killed his master for reasons he doesn’t remember or understand. He is programmed to want to be a valet and he seeks further employment hoping he can find something where killing only one master won’t be an issue. It’s an absurd premise because of course there is no acceptable murder quota. Just as there is no acceptable rape quota on Uber. But Uber was still found responsible and this despite taking many different kinds of actions to prevent rapes from happening once it became publicly clear that Uber-rapes were a thing.

It’s not clear that Trusted Housesitters will take any action to make sure that what happened to Maverick won’t happen again ever to any pet under the care of a Trustedhousesitter. It’s not clear what actions they could have taken in this issue, at least not publicly and not yet. 

It looks like the sitter  “passed” a criminal background check and had no problematic reviews had some kind of breakdown and did something terrible.  Some people are reporting the sitter had numerous driving infractions which presumably didn’t go into the report or maybe like murdering one’s employer in the novel I’m reading, didn’t count.

The soldier knew there was a problem when communication abruptly stopped. The soldier took action by getting in touch with his friends to find out what was happening. Police were involved early on.  But there is a lot we don’t know that isn’t public knowledge. What about all of the previous sits. Were there concerns people had that they didn’t tell anyone? Were there reviews not written that should have been? Or maybe there were concerns but the company did nothing.

So far we haven’t heard publicly from Trusted Housesitters CEO, Matthew Prior who is normally hands-on enough to feature himself in videos and post in the THS blog under his name.

Surely, this is a time for some public statements and internal discussions.  There are many changes in policy that might help in the future:

  • Videos to help homeowners to better vet sitters.
  • A change in norms around what information about sitters is offered to THS and what is shared with homeowners.
  • Some kind of crisis line for sitters that they agree to call if they become “afraid” on a sit or think they might be in danger.  (Some reports suggest Jansen was having a mental health crisis.)
  • Better tracking of sitter (and homeowner) cancellations and issues beyond the reviews to look for patterns that could indicate issues.
  • Post sit assessments that might be kept “private” in case homeowners or sitters have a bad feeling about something but are afraid to put it in a review.
  • Checking in with homeowners who don’t write reviews as this often happens when things go wrong but the homeowner is afraid writing a bad review will cause them problems.
  • Showing any sits “missing reviews” in a sitter’s history. This is not currently visible to homeowners. A sitter could have ten five star reviews and ten missing reviews, and the homeowner would have no way of knowing this.
  • Banning members who’ve had issues before those issues become tragedies.

    This particular case of course tugs on our heart strings because the soldier was called away to serve his country and was trying to do the best he could for his dog. This might be an issue beyond THS’s scope, one that local shelters could help with in providing temporary placement for instance. But THS could also take some responsibility, offering for instance, a special program free for military members or people involved in volunteer service who might not be able to run back home at the first sign of trouble, or might be suddenly deplory, or not be able to maintain regular  contact with the sitters. The company could offer extra support for those pet parents including maintaining contact with sitters or even replacing a sitter if there is an issue. THS itself could have even asked for help on the soldiers behalf from local shelters to see if they could arrange fostering until a great sitter could be found. This isn’t  even “altruistic” (a claim the CEO has made about the company on its website). The good publicity would have been a boon for THS, especially needed after they rolled out new fees and faced a backlash. 

    I don’t expect any of these changes to happen. The changes that have been happening seem to be geared toward bringing in more dollars quickly. New policies are announced that make things worse while members continue to complain about longstanding issues. Legacy members, including a great number of full-time sitters with consistently excellent reviews are leaving because of new fees and a changing culture. New members with less experience, and sometimes more desperation (housing insecurity in a time of scarcity) are joining.

    It’s a story happening in many sectors of the sharing or gig economy even though the non-monetary aspect would seem to place THS in a separate category. Based on some of the advertising, it’s beginning to look less my idea of an “asymmetrical home exchange with cute pets” and more like an ingenious scheme to provide housing for the desperate while they do low- wage sporadic remote work, and both sitters and homeowners pay the company for bringing them together in this wonderful mutually beneficial agreement.

    I hope I’m proven wrong soon by a message from the CEO along with announcements of serious changes to make the site  safer for sitters, homeowners and most importantly pets. Not holding my breath.

Your Pet Sitting Welcome Guide

Hello fellow member of WorldwideHousesitters.com!  You were chosen among the 10,000 applicants willing to exchange two-weeks “free” lodging in my Manhattan apartment for providing care to my lovely kitties aka “my beloved children.” Thank you, City Council for banning Airnb!

I hope you enjoy everything New York has to offer and get to experience life here as a native.  Just remember, the cats get anxious so try not to leave them alone for too long.  Twenty minutes trips to the bodega are fine! 

First, let me tell you about the building. This is a New York City coop. You probably don’t have coops where you are from, but if you are from Eastern Europe and remember a time before the fall of the  Berlin Wall, you might have some idea.

We are a community. It is important to speak to your temporary neighbors  in the elevator. This will establish that you are someone who understands the culture, and knows that New Yorkers are as friendly as any other people! Please remember to be vague about details of your visit. Just tell them you are my guest. Do not mention that I’m actually out of town as this could be considered an illegal sublet or Airbnb-type arrangement and I will be banished forever. If anybody comes to the door looking for me during the day, tell them I am sitting in the car because of alternate side parking. If it is evening, tell them I am out looking for a “good” space for tomorrow.  No one will question these explanations! 

This is a pet friendly building, but there is a two pet limit.  So under no circumstances are you to reveal the actual number of cats currently residing in my apartment. (Besides, it’s kitten season and I wasn’t able to get everyone fixed, so I’m not even sure what that number is!) 

If you are accidentally locked out of the apartment, please do not contact management, but instead knock on Betty’s door — 12C.   Betty has an extra set of keys, possibly for everyone who has ever lived here.  Do not under any circumstances enter Betty’s apartment even if she invites you in and asks you to help her find the keys. Betty has some clutter issues, and we cannot be responsible for your safety in her apartment! Also, nobody has seen Betty’s husband for years and we don’t want to put you — our  guest — in an awkward position.

I know you are a digital nomad and will be working during the day.  It’s generally quiet except for the sound of the grand piano and accordion in the apartment directly below mine. Unfortunately, the pianist has “a right to practice” and his parents are both lawyers, so there isn’t much you can do. Usually, I go over to the radiator and scream, “God he sucks,” just to get it out of my system.  Don’t say it more than once or he could sue us for harassment! Then I ask Alexa to turn on the white noise. Your choices are ocean waves — no loops, summer rain,  rain on tin roof, or Amazon rainforest. Enjoy! Note: I also left earplugs by the bed! 

From time to time neighbors may leave  missives. These are typed or occasionally handwritten notes left under everyone’s door. This is just a way some of us communicate. These may be signed, unsigned, or signed in all caps or crayon.  Here is a passage from something we got last week:   “Fellow and Sister Cooperators:  The current board is filled with faux-socialists who can’t wait to dance on our graves! We must lower the fliptax from the untenable 25% which is making our apartments unsellable. Anyone who disagrees with this statement is planning to buy up apartments at estate sales and vote to lower the flip taxes after we are gone. Then they will flip our apartments for the millions they are actually worth!  They are running dogs who deserve death and yes I am talking about you, Larry, Mr. Big Shot, Board President!”  Please feel free to place any such missives in  recycling unless they are written on tissue or toilet paper,  in which case throw them down the chute. 

Laundry: We are not permitted to have private washing machines and dryers in our apartment. There are washers and dryers in the basement. I left a laundry card for you. Your clothes should be safe while they are in the machines, but please do not leave anything valuable unattended in the laundry room, including the shopping cart. Especially the shopping cart. In fact, keep your hands on the cart at all times! (If you happen to see a large red cart with my initials on the handle, please bring it back to me even if the white haired woman with the support socks insists it is hers.)  The laundry is open from 6:00 AM to midnight, except every second Tuesday when it closes for “reasons” in the afternoon, also the third and fourth Thursday, and sometimes Mondays.  It is still customary to wear KN95 masks in the laundry room and elevators and maintain social distance. Failure to do so will result in accusations that you are “Trying to kill us all so you can dance on our graves and buy our apartments cheap before lowering the flip tax.”

Finally, as for cat care: The cats graze on dry food. There are bowls in every room. Just replenish them. And by all means use filtered water.  The litter boxes also need to be scooped at least once a day. Simple!  However, we recently got a new foster who is staying in the second bedroom. Please keep that door shut and locked. Use the special feeding chute we had installed. Feed him 10 pounds of thawed raw chicken or horse meat  three times a day. Just press the green button to open the chute. Put the food and water on the tray. Close the chute and press the orange button to open the inner chute and push out the food. Don’t worry about the litter pan! He actually goes in the ensuite bath tub and we’ll deal with the mess when we get home. Seriously, don’t go in there or open the door under any circumstances. We’ve left some air freshener if it gets a little funky! 

 

Practicing for the Afterlife

(Some people never learn. My new hobby is submitting to the New Yorker’s Shouts and Murmurs. The following piece was promptly rejected so I’m posting it here. Stay tuned for future rejected “humor.”) 

I. Go to your favorite social media site. Not the one that limits the number of words you can use. Go to the site where you can use all the words. Find a topic that interests you. Write a long heartfelt reply to a post, a reply that will save humanity. Delete it without posting because nothing you say matters, and no one can hear you when you’re dead.

II. At the end of yoga class when everyone is lying down in shavasana and the teacher announces you are all welcome to stay there as long as you’d like, stay there as long as you can. How long? Start with a few minutes a day and work up to forever.

III. Shhhhh. Stay silent at social events and all other opportunities. Do not speak except to avoid “the drama.”  Passively take in what others say.. Make only the slightest nods and gestures, and these only so the person speaking will feel heard and not say, “Dude, are you even listening?”  Do not display emotion. Be like Spock.  You are a tree or better a stone, a slab that people would stare into at a graveyard barely taking in the letters etched in the middle as they ramble to their dear departed.

IV. Declutter: Your stuff is not coming with you.  Burn it, bury it, throw it away, or give it to someone who will use or enjoy it.  Note: The person who will enjoy it is NOT your neighbor, Shirley. She is a hoarder!  Leaving it for her is just cruel. Just put it in the dumpster and maybe on the way, knock on Shirley’s door and ask if she has anything you can take for her. 

V. Move into a small modest dwelling, preferably made of wood or something biodegradable. Do not furnish: Okay, you can get one IKEA cube – no hacks, unless you put fancy boxes in so it looks like above-ground vaults. Sleep on a futon mattress close to the ground.  No pillows! Maybe a little pillow that raises your head at a slight angle as it would in an open casket burial, but only if you are into that sort of thing. 

VI. Live as simply as you can. Eat and drink only enough to survive. No processed foods — and then cut back until you note a look of terror in the eyes of your co-workers. Avoid alcohol but most especially avoid frivolous alcoholic drinks with double-entendre names and frilly umbrellas. There are no “wet pussy shots” on the other side!

VII. Try turning the other cheek. Not in a sectarian way, but because when have you seen a corpse throw a punch?  Don’t just avoid physical confrontation, avoid all confrontation and conflict. You really don’t have to yell at the asshole who is shaking a fist at you for stopping short, so you wouldn’t hit the meth head in the wheelchair pushing a shopping cart followed by a dog on a rope.  You are all meat puppets who will be desiccated bodies soon enough including the dog.  Note: Do not remind the asshole of this or you will be a desiccated body sooner. Besides, God spelled backwards is dog, and you never know, so good on you for not running over a possible deity!  Also you’re the one with the broken tail light.  And why do you still even own a car?

VIII. Move again to an even more modest dwelling or possibly, wander to practice for when your ashes are scattered if that’s your wish.  Leave no forwarding address.  Do this regardless of whether or not the asshole whose car you bumped is still stalking you.  Give your cash away. Cut up your credit cards. Take only what is offered and never ask for anything because the dead ask for nothing.

IX. Make a written account of all the motherfuckers who have screwed you over and you want to tell off. Include everyone from the random lady who wouldn’t move her bag and let you sit on the A train that time you were really tired, to your siblings, exes, and friends. Burn the list without confronting anyone. Be content in the knowledge that they, like you, are going to die.  Really, is there anything you have to say that’s more of a zinger than living under the wrath of a capricious God who could strike anyone down at any moment? Dying is easier when you simply no longer give a fuck, which is the point of these exercises. Cultivating not caring  is the best preparation for a peaceful eternal rest. If you’re still not over your rage at how you were betrayed, abused, lied to, disrespected, and definitely not mom’s favorite,  try ranting in front of a mirror. Don’t you look tough! That was sarcasm. You look like a crazy person. Throw some cold water on your face, shut up about everything forever, and move on. 

X. Now that you have cultivated the nonchalance of a cadaver, turn off the lights (if you still have electricity) and lie down on your futon or directly on the ground.  Rest your hands over your chest, take a deep breath like it was your last, and have a nice nap. If you’re lucky, you won’t ever have to get up! 

Murder on the Subway

Honestly, I wasn’t going to write about this. I was going to write a post about the obvious fix that is needed to make the JFK Airtrain functional. But it’s insane now to write a post about first-world-problems — getting to and from the airport — while vigilantes are murdering homeless people on the trains.

So short and simple and with some links:

I challenge anyone reading eyewitness  reports of what happened on the train and looking at the photo of the chokehold to say that Neely wasn’t murdered. I’m not saying it was first degree murder, but the chokehold was wreckless, and any REASONABLE PERSON would know that. I say this as someone who is now often frightened on mass transit. The mass shooting in Brooklyn, and the more recent shooting of a single passenger — a man on his way to meet his brother for brunch —  are terrifying. Deaths caused by people pushed onto trains are terrifying. But you don’t react to fear by pouncing on an emotionally disturbed person with no gun, no knife, making no threat because he throws down a jacket, and then putting him a CHOKEHOLD which a reasonable person would know is deadly force. In photos it’s clear the marine was bigger than him and could have subdued him — not his job — without deadly force. Whatever his intent was, he was wreckless, and of course he should be charged.
Updating to add: Just found this, a statement by the alleged murderer’s lawyer: “Daniel never intended to harm Mr. Neely and could not have foreseen his untimely death,” the law firm of Raiser and Kenniff, P.C. said in a statement. “We hope that out of this awful tragedy will come a new commitment by our elected officials to address the mental health crisis on our streets and subways.”
Again, Man A puts man in a chokehold. Man B in chokehold passes out.  Man A continues to choke him.  A reasonable person would have foreseen the victim’s “untimely death.”  And yes, NYC prosecutors if you don’t overcharge, you will find a jury willing to convict on the evidence, and convicting a murderer is your job. Doing your job won’t cost you the election.
Updated to add:  Caught a NYTimes article contrasting the lives of the victim and his assailant. The mental health system (and other systems) failed Jordan Neely before his murder, but some of the failure wasn’t due to money or a need for “stronger” involuntary commitment laws. Some of the failure was simply the failure to track humans within the mental health and law enforcement system. There was a warrant for his arrest because he had left a program that he’d agreed to in court because of charges against him. He could have and should have been arrested and sent back to that program instead of simply being thrown out of the subway by cops — who didn’t check for warrants — weeks before.  Why didn’t the police check for warrants?
That failure will be exploited by his killer’s defense team  (if he’s ever charged) — as it should be because that is the defense team’s job. Ultimately, that failure didn’t cause Neely’s death,  but it is an example of one of many things that could have prevented the encounter from ever happening.
While I don’t think it is the job of NYPD to be psychiatrists or mental health workers, it is certainly their job when called in by mental health workers to CHECK FOR OUTSTANDING WARRANTS.

I’m Back!

 

Hello lovelies! So I haven’t been using this blog in ages. You might notice some changes, like the web address! Tech support (better known as the better-half )had a wee problem with his email, and TLDR we lost the old address, which I will not refer to as it is now being held for ransom by cybercriminals.  Jokes on them! It’s worthless.  To paraphrase: All my content belongs to me. So you can still find everything from opera reviews, to snarky television recaps, to me telling a story on the radio right here.

Plus: Silver lining — the new site is a dot com so that’s better, and the better-half learned more stuff about WordPress so I’ve got some fancy updates, which will also work for my business site, Perfect English NYC.

So suck it cybersquatters!